5 Ways To Get In Touch With Your Ex

 

We all experience relationship breakups. Some end well, and we’re able to move on. Others leave us broken-hearted, and we need time to mend our wounded selves.

But sometimes relationships end prematurely. It could be that harsh words were said, and one of you walked out. Or possibly one of you cheated, and the other left because of that.

However, maybe you’ve forgiven your ex for any indiscretions. Perhaps the time has passed, and you feel that the relationship deserves a second chance. You could feel more mature now. What bothered you 20 years ago doesn’t matter anymore. Now you want your ex back. 

But how do you go about reconnecting with your ex? What is the best way forward? How do you even start to talk to them after you’ve cut off contact?

More to the point, do they still have feelings for you? What if you get rejected? What if they don’t feel the same way about you?

I think there are two ways to reconnect with your ex, and they both depend on how confident you are. Your confidence will also rely on whether you know your ex-partner’s feelings towards you.

I’m talking about a passive approach and a direct approach. If you are unsure of your ex-partner’s feelings towards you, then maybe a passive system would be better suited for you.

On the other hand, you might already sense that your ex still has feelings for you. More to the point, you’re a reasonably confident person anyway. In this situation, you may want to take a direct approach.

Before we get into the various methods of each approach, I just want to take you through how we communicate with different people in our lives. This is important because we use other methods in the different relationships we have.

So, if you try and use the wrong method at the wrong time, you’ll not get the result you want.

Different Ways Of Communicating

1.  Social media

When we first start to communicate with someone, we tend to engage with them on social media. This is because this is a relatively innocuous way of conversing. We can share with everyone on social media.

2.  Texting

We generally only text friends, colleagues, family, loved ones, or acquaintances. These are people we have some connection to. Whether it be personal, work, or relations. They are in our lives in some way. 

3.  Phone calls

Now we are getting a little more personal. We call people we are intimate with. These are the ones we love, our family members, good friends, and our partners.

4.  Video chats

We video chat with our good friends, loved ones, romantic partners, and family members.

5.  In-person

This is our inner circle of good friends, family members, loved ones, and partners. 

So you see, there is a pecking order if you like how we use various methods of communication for each social group.

Some groups overlap. For instance, our partner will fall into all the groups. On the other hand, a plumber might only fit into two groups.

Now this matters because when someone falls out of one of our groups, it also changes how we communicate with them.

So your partner, who was once accessible to you via all the communication groups, now has restricted access. This is because their status has changed.

They are no longer in your personal loved ones’ category. So you are going to have to consider this when it comes to reconnecting with an ex.

Should you jump straight in and ask to see them in person? Or is it better to approach them via social media? Remember, seeing someone in person is reserved for your inner circle.